It Girl

You know those girls that have it all together? They have the cutest clothes, the prettiest hair, the perfect relationship, the best job, the coolest group of friends…all of it. 

Head to toe perfection. 

You’re probably already picturing someone you know. 

We’ll call her it girl

I know this girl. 

Well..ok..I didn’t know this girl. 

I followed her on social media and saw her from afar…but I just KNEW she was perfect. 

The girl that has it all. 

The it girl. 

The girl we all want to be and have high hopes of someday measuring up to.

As I said, I didn’t actually know this girl. I just knew that she was the cream of the crop, coolest girl that we all secretly (now not so secretly) desire to be like. 

Welllllll then it girl started going to my church. 


“Oh my gosh. Not only is she literally flawless…but she loves Jesus?!”


We started making small talk from time to time.

Yep, me and it girl. 

You could almost call us friends.

And then we started talking more often. 

You could actually, maybe call us friends. 

And then…we made plans. 


Me and it girl.



We had breakfast and coffee and more small talk than ever before. 

I know I sound crazy…but the whole time I was sitting there, I couldn’t help but think..

“Wow…I don’t even know how she had time to hang out with me.” 

We chatted about school and clothes and Instagram and all the other hip, surface level kind of things that new friends discuss. 

And then the conversation took a turn. 

It got a little deeper. 

She talked about her past, her struggles, her short comings. 

My heart broke right there at that breakfast table. 

I was just shocked. 

It girl was so far from perfect. 

I couldn’t believe she actually had flaws.

She hated her hair that day and questioned her outfit choice.

She struggles with temptation and all the other things that regular people like me and you go through. 

I had put this girl on a pedestal for so long and I couldn’t believe that she was actually…well…real. 

I kept listening to her and I realized something.

I realized that she was broken, too. 

Just like me. 

Just like you. 

Just like all of us, really. 

So often we put other people on a pedestal and our only goal is to eventually measure up to them. 


(How many times have you commented that on someone else’s Instagram picture..?) 

When in reality there is only one person that we should be putting on a pedestal. 

And that is Jesus Christ. 

And our goal should be to keep moving closer and closer to Him. 

THAT is #goals. 

If you know an it girl, I challenge you to go talk to her today. 

Get to know her…I mean really know her. 

Chances are, you’ll have way more in common than you think. 

Hey, ya never know, she might even become your best friend. 

And if you are the it girl, then listen up…

God loves you endlessly. 

He doesn’t love you for your hair or clothes or boyfriend or body or the number of likes on your latest Instagram post.

He loves you for YOU. 

And whatever you’re going through..just know, one by one, He will put together every little broken piece of your heart. 

And love you all the more.

He has given you the freedom to be YOU.

Beautiful, wonderful you.

He has chosen you and called you by name.

Soak it in.  

You’re it, girl.

bless and be blessed

Mary Alan 


Stay With Me

I’ll probably regret this sloppy post tomorrow, but someone needs to hear this tonight. I don’t know what to call it. 

So just stay with me, ok? 

I went to target tonight to make a return and get a little birthday present for my friends nephew. 

While I was shopping, I ran into a sweet friend. I helped her pick out some bedroom decor for her daughter and we started making small talk.

And then we started talking about God.

And just for your reference, when a conversation goes from small talk to God talk…it is no longer small talk.

She was asking about my journey and telling me all about hers. 

The whole time we were talking I couldn’t help but think about how unqualified I was to be giving spiritual advice. Am I the only one who feels this way? 

I am so super broken. 

And just don’t feel qualified sometimes. 

Ok ANYWAYS, I told her about a book I had that I knew she would LOVE. I told her I’d bring it to her tomorrow night while she was working. 

After we parted ways…I started thinking…

“Wow, I am never going to find that book.” 

(My house is being renovated soooo that gives me an excuse to be messy, right?)

I came to the conclusion that I would just head to the book store and grab her a copy. 


I’m really, truly, so very sorry that this post is so all over the place. Just…STAY WITH ME. 


Walking in the bookstore, I ran into my childhood best friends dad. 

He’s going through a pretty big storm right now. 

His youngest daughter was in a terrible jet ski accident a few weeks ago and they are in the midst of a pretty long and exhausting recovery process.

I thought, “God, please just give me the words to say.”

Before I could even get a word out, he was asking about me. 

What I’ve been up to, how I’ve been, all that stuff. 

Can you believe that? 

After everything he’s been through and still going through, he wanted to know how I was doing. 

We had the best little life talk in the middle of that book store. 

And I know you’re probably wondering why I’m rambling and telling you all this. 

But in that 5 minute conversation I was reminded of some things that I felt led to share. 

Here ya go..

1. God. Is. Good. 

2. Your success is not defined by the world. Success is living out who God has called you to be. 

3. Life is all about choices. And it’s YOU that has to live with those choices…so choose wisely.

4. Things can change in the blink of an eye..seize this day and every second in it. Time is so precious. Hug your parents. Tell your best friend you love them. Don’t let another minute go to waste.

5. Follow your heart.

6. Love God.

7. Love yourself.

If you can look at yourself in the mirror at the end of the day and say “I love you” then what else really matters?

I’m not perfect and neither is anyone else who walks this planet. 


Quit trying to be who this world tells you to be. 

Chase after God. 


As fast as you possibly can. 

And never stop.

I’m sitting in the parking lot of a book store in awe of everything God does. 

In awe of all that He is. 

How He made a trip to Target and the book store a total God moment.

A miracle. 

You guys…

His hands are in every moment of our days. 

Every breathe.

Every word. 

Every minute. 

Every little errand. 

All of it. 

He’s there.

And He’s staying with you. 

All the time. 

God is absolutely still in the miracle business. 

If you don’t believe me, just take a look around.

God is so good.

As always, bless and be blessed

Mary Alan 

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Along For The Ride 

Ever since I started this little blog I have just been absolutely humbled. 

As a writer, imagining someone actually reading your words is such an indescribable feeling. 

Imagining almost 200k of you guys reading my words….


So first of all THANK YOU.

For taking time out of your day to read what the Lord has laid on my heart. I never intended my words to reach so many.

Thank you for the shares, the emails, the comments, all of it. 

I am so touched by each and every one of you. 


I love hearing from you…so by all means, keep it coming! 

I know it’s been a couple of weeks since I have posted anything but I promise it’s for good reason.

There are some exciting things happening with my blog and I’m so looking forward to sharing more with all of you as it unfolds! 

I’m asking for your prayers as I continue on this exciting roller coaster God has me on.

I feel so sure that He has HUGE things in store for this ministry and I can’t wait to take all of you along for the ride! 

I pinky promise I’ll have some new content up shortly so please don’t forget about me! 

I love all of you. I mean it. 

bless and be blessed,

Mary Alan 

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